No Regrets

There's always something great about Monday. I'm not talking about work or school or the daily stresses of life. I'm talking about Monday's Coffee and Conversations link up! As a newer blogger I always hope that one day I will experience a Blate of my own! Until then I link up with Kalyn and Lauren for Coffee and Conversations. We basically grab a cup of coffee and spend the morning answering a real life serious question that hits close to home. We share our stories and experiences and get to know each other better. Sound fun? Great! Join in and let's have some fun!

Today's question:

What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

I would regret not spending enough time with my family and friends. I use a lot of my time and effort put into the people around me. If I didn't do this I would be unhappy. I find that a lot of my happiness

comes from making others happy.

I love spending time with my girlfriends shopping, having coffee dates and sending them little surprise packages in the mail.

I spend a lot of my nights on dinner dates with my mom which I value very much. You never really truly appreciate what a mother does and how much she loves you until you have one of your own. You never know when the people closest to you will be gone in a blink of the eye, cherish them.

 

I have cut out an hour each night for MomMeHour with my daughter. When did technology become a priority over our family and children? Samantha really helped me put this into perspective. I love Madison more than life itself and I want her to always remember how great her childhood was and how much we love and adore her.

 



 

I expect many things out of others because I spend so much time and effort put into my relationships. I love leaving little notes to brighten someone's day. I love sending a morning text to make someone smile or laugh. I love seeing their eyes light up when they feel the joy and happiness in their hearts.

I put 110% into my relationships with everyone that I love. If I didn't do this to the best of my ability I would be failing many people and I don't want to be one of those people. When I die I want to be remembered for the love, positivity and happiness I brought into people's lives. No regrets.

 

How about you?

Influence

Throughout life there will always be that one person who makes an impact on your life. The one who shows you structure, patience, guidance and helps you throughout those hard times in life. One person you wish you could show the appreciation that you feel for what they have done for you.

 

This weeks question for Coffee and Conversations is:

Who has influenced you the most in your life - personally or professionally - and why?  

 This was a very easy question to answer! That person would be my mother. Yes, she is reading this right now and probably going to shed some tears. She probably is already getting teary eyed, this is what we do. We get emotional. I definitely inherited a lot of characteristics from her. Except for patience. I am the crazy lunatic and she is the calm, carefree patient God sent angel. She can seriously take on any task that is thrown her way and somehow not wig out about it.

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She has influenced me so much in life that I could write for days about what all she has done for our family. Growing up without a father in my life was hard. She made that very easy and helped me to fill that void. I look at life like who needs a father when you have a mom who is practically both? She encourages me to do my best and to always finish what I start. She reminds me to appreciate the little things in life and to not let every little thing get to me. She reminds me that my family comes first and that they are the only ones who will be standing by my side when all else fails. She is my back bone. I can go into a little tangent and know that she will always forgive me. She knows every detail of my life and she truly is my bff, always has been and always will be :)
I hope to be half the person and mother that she is. She is the world's greatest grandmother to my daughter and everyone who meets her will agree she is a remarkable woman.
If I could give her the world I would.

Thanks mom for being the best thing that ever happened to me, besides Madison of course
XOXO

 

 

 

 

 

You, Me and A Cup Of Joe

How many of you adore a cup of coffee? How about making and building friendships? Great! You have settled down in the right place! My new found friend Kayln along with the sweet Lauren is hosting a new link up called Coffee and Conversation!
Last week, Kayln and Lauren introduced this new linkup where you can come and find out what's going on in your blogger friends life.
Now, we get to sit with our cup of joe and share life together! Sounds fun, right?!?!?

So come along on this journey. Make some new great friendships - isn't that why a lot of us started blogging anyway, to share life together. :)

Each week they will have a new topic and you can link up! Grab the button below and join us!

This weeks question: What is one of the most valuable lessons you have learned this year so far?

This was a very easy question for me to answer! I have had several eye opening experiences this year and we are only three months in!
The most valuable lesson I have learned is to not let people walk over you and learn when to say no! I am known as the push over. I let people take advantage of me. I let others say and do things and I tend to let them roll off my back without saying anything. I tend to hold everything in and then I break down.
This year I have chosen that the people who I want in my life are the ones who will make an effort for me as well. Calling, texting, emailing and visiting cannot happen daily and I am aware of that but when you feel like the friendship or relationship is one sided then it is not worth it. You can only work so hard on something without receiving the love in return before you give up. I noticed the excuses and I noticed things being said behind my back. This year on my list of New Year's Resolutions, building better friendships was my main focus. I can say proudly that I have moved my main focus to the ones who show me they care about me as much as I care about them.

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As far as the "saying no" subject, I always say yes to everything. I am a people pleaser! My schedule might be completely full and I say yes. Someone needs help, yes. Someone wants to plan a dinner or lunch date, yes. If anyone asks or needs anything, yes. Trust me I am still working on this! It is VERY hard for me to say no to anyone. I am a very emotional person and I feel like I might hurt their feelings or that they won't ask again when they need it next time. It doesn't mean I will never say YES but sometimes I just cannot manage all that I have going on and add one more thing to the list. Is anyone else with me on this? Do you have a problem telling others no? Have you found a way to get around the feeling of guilt? I try really hard to balance my life with the life of others and it is still a work in progress, I just hate letting others down because I myself hate that feeling.

What valuable lesson have you learned this year?

Come back next Monday, pull up a chair, sip your warm delicious coffee and let's chat!

I am also on the lookout for anyone who wants to meet up for a blate (blogger + date = blate). If you are or know of someone near Indiana please give me a shout out!  We can meet, eat and drink coffee together outside of the little Internet world!